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Much has been written in recent years about co-dependency. It's characteristics of caretaking, the need to control others, denial, inability to trust, anger, lack of boundaries, people pleasing, addictive behaviours, fear of criticism and an inability to communicate needs effectively are common as presenting issues in the counselling room. An examination of the documented characteristics of shame (Middleton-Moz 1990) revealed remarkable similarities to that of co-dependency. Bradshaw (1993, p14) states "It is my belief that internalised shame is the essence of co-dependency."
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Attempts to resolve conflict with some people can be rather like trying to stop a runaway train by stepping in front of it – not much fun for the participants or the spectators but we have all observed it at some time. No-one wins in that situation
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