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Christian Counselling


Allan provides Christian Counselling and Relationship Coaching to Christian couples and individuals in the Waikato. He has an office in Matamata and he also offers the unique experience of the Kiwisense Exclusive Retreats where he also conducts Christian counselling sessions.
Allan and Sue both have a mature Christian faith and believe that it was the intervention of God that enabled the renewal of their own marriage. This resulted in the call to help others discover the joys of marriage that are available to those who are prepared to get help to go through the pain to the discoveries and joy that can exist in a healthy relationship. Allan's personal insight embodies his Christian counselling with strong empathy and understanding.

The pain and struggles that they have endured have given them both a compassion for those Christians who are experiencing marriage problems, empowering Allan's Christian counselling capability.  They have experienced the struggle of maintaining the outward appearance of having a successful marriage while fulfilling their responsibilities to their church, home group and community, yet often privately being crushed by the emotional canyon that separated them at home.  They are a living testament to the potential of "quit the pain not the person" and an outworking of Romans 8:28.

Allan's Bachelor of Counselling training at Bethlehem Tertiary Institute in Tauranga along with Level Two training with David Riddell's Living Wisdom School of Counselling has well equipped him to work with Christian couples seeking to get the most from their marriage, offering them his experience in Christian counselling.

While Allan's first choice would always be for restoration of the relationship, there are specific circumstances when tactical separation would be beneficial as part of the process.  He does not conform to the belief of "stay together at all cost."

In Relationship and Christian Counselling, faster progress can be made towards a healthy relationship if both partners are involved with the process.  However if only one partner is willing then change can still happen.  A relationship is always in a situation of balance and if one partner is prepared to do their own work, then the nature of the relationship can no longer stay the same.
 
Relationship coaching and counselling may qualify for the Government funded counselling that is available to most couples in New Zealand. (Find out more)

Philosophy on Relationships 

 


Relationships are an essential part of an individuals' journey towards emotional maturity, balance and Christ-likeness.

We are initially attracted to someone who exhibits the undeveloped part of ourselves resulting in the impression of finding our other half; with the two individuals making up the whole (the two shall become one Gen 2).  At some stage the differences that once were attractive become a problem and we end up pushing each others' buttons.  After being attracted to the very best in the other, we often end up calling out the very worst. 

The usual miss-assumption is that because our partner originally made me happy, it is now their fault that I am now unhappy and if they changed, I would not have a problem. The situation is often interpreted as we are now not suited and I must have chosen the wrong person.  

This would have happened eventually, regardless of who we were in a relationship with. This is the invitation to re-engage the maturing process as an individual that was begun as a child, but will inevitably have become stalled at some point.  When an individual can get to the place of asking the question of "what was my part in creating the situation we are now in?" then each can begin to move from being part of the problem to being part of the solution.
 
Allan's belief is that the relationship is doing the job that God intended by both revealing the undeveloped parts of ourselves and also providing the environment for the growth to occur.

Allan's Christian Counselling technique has a strong emphasis on education and fun.  Just as gravity works on us whether we are aware of it or not, so do fundamental principles of relationships.  Failure to understand fundamental differences in people often results in misunderstanding our partners' intentions.

 
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